When was the last time you wrote your wife a love letter? Do you have a best friend? Is that relationship beneficial to your marriage? Which male, outside of your dad, played the biggest role in your life? Do you have a vice, and addiction that you want to get rid of? 4 tough questions, 1 easy show. Todd and Kent tackle it all on pagatim.fm.

We talked about it on the show on Weds and Kent told me to post Laura’s response to my question. Well, I can report that she said yes. It was almost more nerve racking than asking the original question. Today is my birthday, May 28th and I am 42. I love my kids and wife, but I am really at a place where I need to get away from them. I often put it this way, “I want to miss them”. Right now I mostly just want to throttle them (I am tired of having to wash all the dishes after making dinner, getting hit in the nuts and having my neck wrenched during play wrestling and having to ask for things 5 or 6 times) I am tired. So, my family has a place in Central Oregon and I want to go there and enjoy nothing. No running water, no lights, no nothing. I can go fishing all day, hiking all day, reading all day, meditating all day (though the mosquitoes would drive me crazy.)

I will admit, when I did ask her about this I felt incredibly guilty. I felt I was screaming, “I don’t love you!” or “I don’t want to be with you.” No, I was actually saying the opposite. But we have all been taught asking for things like this is selfish. My Dad even asked if everything was okay with us when I told him I was taking off for the weekend. When I told him why I was doing it, he said, “I totally understand. Makes perfect sense to me.”

So I think things are good. I mean, Laura looks honestly pleased that I am asking for what I want. I guess I could get used to this. How do you think she will respond when I tell her I want to go to a Tropical Island with Supermodel Marisa Miller?

Dads, where do you go when you get angry? Your room, outside, the bar? Do you have a place? Kent and Todd discussed how they don’t have anywhere in their home to call their own. What about workshops? Has your wife ever tried to drag you to one? Sex, Marriage, Parenting workshops? Did you go? Did you fight? Plus, 30 years ago, Mt. St. Helens blew. Do you remember where you were?

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Is Sex Addiction real or is it just an excuse to cheat? It’s a tough topic to tackle but we do our best. Find out how Sex Addiction is treated. Is there really a cure?

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Tues. Jan 19th at 9pm, Kent and Todd of Dad’s Unplugged will be holding a gathering for Dads only to talk about parenting. Email Todd for more information. Businessweek Mag says we should treat our marriage like a business. So who’s the CEO at your house? Should your boys be circumsized? There’s an awkward topic for men to talk about. Can watching too much TV really shorten your life? Todd thinks it’s complete BS.

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